By: Aglaheth Zaragoza
There is one question that I repeatedly seem to be thinking about. It is really bothering me because I can’t leave it as one single answer, and instead, I come up with more than one. My question is, what exactly is trust? See, the dictionary has at least three separate definitions of that one word and these can be totally different from yours or mine. It really depends on the person and the situation. I feel like trust can be easily given and broken. There are things that would need trust, such as those that tend to come with risks.
But then there are risks when it comes to trusting another person, whether it be for something simple or something very difficult. Honestly, trust is really placed into perspective when you have one of those teachers for gym class that makes you participate in the trust fall.
You had to basically step up onto a four-foot tall bleacher and stand there. There is a phrase that goes with it that must be said so that your catchers can get ready and prepare. The catch was willingly trusting people you never really talked to and just letting you fall. I was so nervous and man, there was nothing for a couple seconds and then Bam! I didn’t splatter on the ground and that is something that I am very grateful for.
Anyway, I feel that it can be easy for me to trust someone unless I get any inkling not too. They say to “trust your gut” and it is something I tend to do, but I don’t necessarily rely on that instinct. I get that a lot of people tend to use that feeling, it’s different and a bit strange how someone can tell that something is not right.
There are also other places that trust is involved in such as friendships, as well as relationships. Trust involves two people and normally trust is so complex because there are things that are holding each person back. Being hurt by someone in the past can affect the ability in which one trusts. It takes time, otherwise, you wouldn’t have that tight circle of friends or a best friend.
Trust is about learning, understanding, and listening to someone. You have to trust that you can depend on them as well as they can with you. But then there is also that different kind of trust that you tend to have when you ride a rollercoaster, hang glide, or decide to bungee jump. Sometimes people question what they’re about to do and decide to go with it or not. They trusted themselves.
That is important. You have to trust yourself first to be able to trust others, and no matter the outcome, what you learned can make or break it. Trust me, means that I won’t have someone turning their back on me and that I will be there for them as well. It means that I will keep my word and tell you when I know that I can’t keep a promise. It also means that I can tell them something and it won’t become a problem because it would be the same way for them or anyone for that matter.
Trust is when you’re being honest, kind, and simply sticking to what you say. It’s an invisible tether that seems to literally be made of glass.
It’s hard to get it back once you break it, but second chances do exist. Not everyone will grant one, but those who are given should try to avoid doing what they did the first time. You are willingly and undeniably putting your faith into a person, and I for one think that this is one of the toughest things to do. This is one of many reasons why some people try to avoid trusting others and stick to themselves.
Personally, I think it’s a bit sad to never trust someone, but for those that choose to do this, I have nothing against it. There’s a 50/50 chance that you will or won’t get hurt. That you will discover things, that you will find out who you, your friend, a family member, or your partner really is when it comes to trust.
I say go for it. Live the experience and understand why trust is so essential in someone’s daily life. Everything starts off as baby steps, and you can decide whether to keep them at that size or go bigger and be willing to take the risks that come along with it.