By Cindy Pasillas & Sam Marquez
Raudha Athif, a medical student and Maldivian model that was seen gracing the covers of Vogue India last October was found dead in her dorm last week. It was reported that she’d committed suicide by hanging herself with a scarf where one of her friends would later find her.
She was 21 and dreamed of becoming a doctor. It was surprising news to the superintendent of Raudha’s school seeing as she described the model as “always happy” and she even said “it is hard to believe she would commit suicide.”
Cases like this occur all the time. Cases where someone commits suicide and everyone is a bit taken aback by it because they don’t see it coming or expect it from that particular person.
The person may seem completely fine or content but in reality their struggling internally. Things aren’t always what they seem to be.
Suicide happens more often then expected as seen below.
That being said there are particular signs you could be looking for and things you can do to try to help prevent tragedies like suicide from happening to people in your life.
Suicide should never be the answer to any of your problems.
Suicide is a permanent solution to temporary problems.
Here are some warning common signs in people that may be suicidal.
- You may notice the person has been feeling hopeless, lonely, disconnected, worthless, angry, or sad these feelings will usually last for a long period of time
- Alcohol or drug usage or abuse
- Losing interest in things that use to be important
- Reckless actions
- Emotional outburst or mood swings
- This ones pretty obvious but if the person is talking about wanting to harm themselves or commit suicide, that should be concerning
- Actively looking for ways to kill themselves
These are only a few of the behavioral and emotional changes or signs you may see in a person that may need help but there may also be physical changes in the person. These physical changes may include.
- Changes in sleeping patterns
- Loss in appetite or increase appetite
- Weight gain or weight loss
- Not caring about personal hygiene or physical appearance
- Self harming
Other factors that may be alarming or may increase the chance of somebody committing suicide are the following.
- Previous attempts at suicide
- Struggling with mental disorders (depression, anxiety, schizophrenia, etc.)
- Somebody with a history of trauma or abuse
- Family history of suicide
- Losing a loved one
- Losing a job
- Lack or support
- Easy access to lethal weapons
- Lack of healthcare for treating ones mental illness
Observing for any of these signs is only the beginning. Let’s say you see more then a few of these signs and they last for more than a few days. What do you do then?
Speak to them directly if you’re comfortable with that. Ask them what’s going on and try to figure out if there’s anything you can do to help them. If that isn’t enough speak to an adult you trust. Talk to their parents, a counselor, a teacher somebody that will be able to get this person at risk professional help because at the end of the day if you feel suicidal you’re probably going to need to see a doctor.
You have the opportunity of helping somebody and making a positive impact on their lives when you speak up for them. You’ll be giving them another opportunity at living a long happy life.
If you or anyone you know aren’t going through dark times and are having suicidal thoughts there are places where you can get help online. You can go to https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or call 1-800-273-8255. They provide free confidential help to anyone that needs it.
Things always get better no matter how bad things are now they won’t always be that way. Suicide steals the opportunity of somebody seeing a better tomorrow so if you know anyone that’s struggling help them.
Things will get better.